Sexual fulfillment after prostate disease? It can’t happen, many claim. I’m here to share that it’s possible and that you can enjoy a better sex life than before that dreaded diagnosis!

If you’re reading this, you probably have heard these words, “the prostate biopsy results show cancer.” Of course, when my husband, Steve, and I heard those words, priority number one was Steve’s health. As he recovered from the removal of his prostate, and after his first few blood tests showed the welcomed ‘zero PSA,’ my thoughts turned to our sexual intimacy.

Can Sex After Prostate Cancer be Fulfilling?

I soon found only a few resources to help us, and most options involved some kind of pill or shot. These solutions didn’t work well for us. Our sex life didn’t recover, despite our hopes and intentions. Over time, I cycled in and out of the various stages of grief. After all, there’s a lot of loss to grieve with prostate disease. Steve had lost his prostate, and we had lost an important part of our relationship, our sex life.

I’m sure you’ll recognize many of my feelings and emotions. At first, I denied the problem. I kept believing our sex life would improve and get back to “normal.” I blamed myself for not being able to interest Steve in sex and became angry at him for his lack of sexual desire.

I’m sure you’ll recognize many of my feelings and emotions. At first, I denied the problem. I kept believing our sex life would improve and get back to “normal.” I blamed myself for not being able to interest Steve in sex and became angry at him for his lack of sexual desire.

The “Settling” Phase

I then settled for Steve’s good health. I attempted to force myself to feel grateful that he was alive and lived cancer-free. I kept myself distracted by working more hours, writing books and taking classes. This didn’t work after awhile, and I soon found myself feeling depressed, losing my zest for life and my interest in our relationship.

Over time, I moved into the final phase of the grieving process and accepted a mediocre sex life. When living that way no longer became an option, and not wanting our relationship to end, we intensified our search for ways to live a sexually fulfilled life.

Steve and I experimented with numerous traditional and non-traditional methods to reach sexual fulfillment. Some things worked, some didn’t. Through our dedication to keeping our relationship strong, we learned new techniques and methods to improve our sex life and increase the intimacy in our relationship.

From Frustration to Empowerment

As we shared our story with others, we discovered a number of people living frustrated sexual lives after prostate disease. We created The Personal Approach to help others avoid the pain and dissatisfaction we experienced.

A good sex life keeps me healthy, happy and creative. It also keeps our relationship strong. What we learned greatly improved our marriage. Please contact us to discuss your personal journey and how we can help.

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